Where I come from
I grew up in some of the roughest neighbourhoods you can imagine and slept on the streets as a teenager. I know what it is to be hungry. I also know what it is to be met with extraordinary kindness, the kind that changes the direction of a life.
Since then I’ve lived in seven countries and spent real time in more than twenty others, living inside those cultures and building friendships rather than passing through.
Military and business
I served in an elite military unit. It taught me focus, discipline and how to perform under pressure.
After the army I put that intensity into business. I’ve founded several tech startups. One reached an exit that taught me more than it paid me, and the company I’m building now operates globally. Along the way I went through Techstars, The Junction and the Microsoft startup accelerator, which sharpened how I set direction, communicate and make decisions under pressure.
I also became fascinated by what makes people open up and trust each other. That took me to Sydney, where I trained with James in confidence, social presence and masculine leadership, always grounded in respect for women and their autonomy.
The inner work
I’ve always been confident with women and comfortable with my sexuality. I learned the hard way that this isn’t the same as mastery. I spent years in a relationship that didn’t fit, ignored my instincts and lost parts of myself. Ending it was one of the hardest and most important things I’ve done.
What followed was years of serious practice:
- Tantra and sexual embodiment
- Yoga, meditation and breathwork
- Men’s circles and leadership training
- Relationship work, from communication to conflict
- Dance and movement
- Strength training, CrossFit, open-water swimming and endurance work
- Workshops with Peter and his team at Erotic Living in Sydney, a school for conscious sexuality, kink and erotic embodiment
In 2025 alone that included the Estonia Tantra Festival, Andy Buru’s Desire Retreat, the ISTA Festival, ISTA Level 1 and Black Butterfly. These were demanding environments. They asked for accountability, emotional maturity and a steady nervous system, and I keep choosing teachers and settings that stretch me.
When my kidneys failed
I was in the best shape of my life and happier than I’d ever been when my kidneys shut down without warning. After a month of dialysis I decided I’d had enough and checked into a hospice.
A close friend refused to let me give up. Because of that friend, and the generosity of a complete stranger, I received a kidney transplant.
That experience stripped everything down to what matters. It’s why I don’t do shallow fixes. Every day since has been a gift, and I use it.
How I coach
- Direct. I tell you the truth, including when it’s uncomfortable.
- Deep. Strength comes from alignment, not force or games.
- Built on integrity. Who you are when nobody is watching matters more than how you perform.
- Built to last. We build habits, mindset and presence that hold long after we finish.
People describe my energy as strong and direct, and they’re often surprised by how well I listen. I believe attraction, intimacy and confidence are skills. Any man can learn them if he’s willing to do the work.
Outside of coaching
I’m a PADI Dive Master, a former Bondi lifesaver and outdoor climber, and I’m currently learning to sail and dance. I train hard and spend as much time outdoors as I can. I also volunteer as a K9 search and rescue handler and have been on missions in three countries.
Why I do this
I know what it’s like to feel lost and unsure of your place. I also know the freedom that comes from mastering your body, your mind and your relationships.
I work with a small number of men each year. The work is intense, and for the men who commit, it changes their lives.